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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get a hobby outside of the kids. Seriously, saved my sanity.  The thing with raising kids is they are not going to appreciate the magnitude of all you do for them until they are much much older so you need to feel some immediate gratification elsewhere.  Not that your SAHM work is not valuable, you will know this in your heart and that may need to be your guiding compass.  Because often times that may be the only place you can return to to know your sacrifice is worth it.  And don’t get me wrong there will be beautiful loving moments you would Give the world for, but engaging in  other thing you are objectively good at that others openly appreciate will do wonders for maintaining sanity and self-worth.[/quote]

+1 and now that my kids are teens, and with the rebelling and all, it's hard to feel like a success with your kids.  It's a rough time; it's such a grind, and some days I'm worried that my kids won't fledge and will end up in my proverbial basement forever.  Teens can be like small spot fires; you are stomping one problem out and you look up and there are two more fires off to your left.

As a SAHM, it's easy to have all your eggs in one basket (the eggs being Dh and kids) and that can really wear you down when something is not going right.  When they are teens, there are many opportunities for something to not go right!

So it becomes more important to have something for yourself, something for you that is not you as Wife or Mom.  And I'm NOT talking about your workout program or things that you do for yourself because "you should take care of yourself"...I'm talking about something you really like.

So for me, I'm talking about hiking--but NOT to keep in shape.  Just to hike and wander and to not use it for cardio unless I feel like it.  And I do duolingo (on the computer, not on the iphone--it's better on the computer).  I kept my expectations very low on the language...to be able to decipher.  In the old days I was going for a fluent conversation...but that was undermining me.  Baby steps![/quote]

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