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Reply to "Making it work when the wife is the one with the "big job" - s/o today's NY Times article"
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[quote=Anonymous]NP. Similar dynamics here, except I make less than you but more than DH. I've realized we can't have it all. My kids wanted to do girl scouts but I'm struggling with their existing extras (music + sport) already, so "sorry kids, we can't." Do I feel guilty? Sometimes, but they might as well learn from a young age that we as parents have limitations despite doing our best. OP, you sound very type A, which is probably why you are so successful in your career and want to do it all for your kids. But the marital situation is much more challenging (as I've painfully learned) because you can't control your spouse who is unlikely to change. So, I'd suggest either dial your expectations way down: do only what you can not what you want or as others have suggested, hire a household manager who can share your mental load. I get it; it sucks but it is what it is.[/quote]
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