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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This also sounds like it's [b]bordering on religious discrimination [/b]and/or has the potential to escalate to a hate crime. Is the school treating you differently than they would a Christian? Is the fact that your daughter had been targeted likely to make her the target of vandalism or worse? Not sure  what religion you are, but as a Jew or a Muslim I'd be worried if I lived in certain places in the country and my kid was being targeted. I would escalate this sooner rather than later.
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OP here. My thoughts exactly but I've been wondering if Im just overthinking it. My husband and I are going to discuss approaching the superintendent. The principal has offered to meet with us, but I see zero reason to do that at this point, since they just keep offering platitudes and protection for the bullies. It's truly bizarre to me. [/quote]

I'd do one last attempt with the principal. The fastest way to get action from the principal might be to have that meeting and when there, say that if there is no change by date X, you already have an appointment with the superintendent on date Y and will go ahead with that appointment. In short--threaten very clearly and calmly that you already have plans to go over the principal's head to his/her boss, if certain things are not done by a specific time.

Do not leave the meeting with the principal until you and he/she have created a written list of steps the school will take. Attach dates to each step. Immediately after the meeting, email the principal a summary of your notes from the meeting including the action steps on which you both agreed. Note that you will be calling the principal on date Z for a status  update and to tell the principal how things are going, or not going Copy the email to anyone else who knows the situation: Teacher, assistant principal, school counselor.

I've seen the "I'm planning to go over your head/go outside this school" statement jar a principal into action. Worked for a friend whose son was being badly bullied.

I'd stop focusing on insisting they separate the two bullies from each other. That's s distraction from your DD's situation. I do think you're right that the two girls are egging each other on but because neither is your own child, any request from you about their interactions with each other will be dismissed--the school can and will only deal with you on whatever relates directly to your DD's interactions. So don't muddy the waters with any requests about splitting up the two bullies or you'll possibly undermine your own case. (Unfortunately. Because the two girls probably would benefit from being kept apart.)

As for talking with parents--it's your call, but I would not, and would do everything through the the (supposedly) neutral channel of the school (even if that means the school board, because the school isn't responsive). Trying to resolve this as parents, if you don't already know each other, lets the school off the hook and can also end up with parents saying your own child is the issue, or saying they'll make it stop when they can't, etc.

OP, it's near the end of the school year (unless you have year-round school?) so the school might hope that this will peter out and summer break will "fix" it for them. I do think summer can be an excellent reset for your child. But don't let the school get away with dragging their feet because school's almost over. And be certain to say in writing that your DD must not be placed in any classes next year with either bully.

Please update us here. I'm so sorry that these girls are doing this and as a Christian I'm saddened and angered by their tragically ignorant behavior. [/quote]

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