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[quote=Anonymous]Before kids, I always wanted either 2 or 4 kids. All of the sets of 3 seemed to have some unhappy dynamics among the siblings (always 2 vs. 1). Our first 2 were boys, two 1/2 years apart. Best buddies - it was great. But we felt a little incomplete as a family, so we decided to try for a 3rd. #3 was unexpectedly harder to conceive due to complications from #2, so ended up with almost 4 years gap. Although a girl would have been nice, I was very happy to have boy #3, since we already had boy stuff and knew boys. #3 was high risk pregnancy for me, so we stopped there, and I ended up with 3 kids.  Go figure.  :shock:  :lol:

Dynamics - #3 did round out the family. #1 is my mini-me, #2 is DH's, and #3 is best of both. We switched from man-on-man to zone defense. #1 was best-ever big brother to #3 (6 years apart). #2, not so much  :roll: As they got older, there was a break in activities between what tweens/teens want to do and what a kid wants to do, but we navigated that. Once #1 was driving, he was super helpful driving #3 places, while I dealt with #2's taxi services. We are at the end of the cycle - #1 in college, #2 driving and independent, and #3 just turned 13. DH and I are having fun being two parents with just #3 going places and trying things that just interest him. It's like having only 1 kid, and pretty fun.

tl;dr A 4 year gap before #3 turned out to be better spacing than I thought it would be.[/quote]

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