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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I truly don’t think about all this very much - I decided long ago that I just could not spend my time feeling bitter about the way she subsidizes my brother. It was just her request that I help get things ready for a financial advisor, and the discovery that she has actually titled half her assets in his name, that brought it all up. It makes me so upset that I honestly feel like just saying, “you need to ask him to help you with this.” That is the problem, it is not so easy to separate the emotional stuff out. It’s not about the money as such. It’s the money as symbol of unequal care.

Ugh ugh ugh. [/quote]

Exactly, sometimes people on DCUM have flamed others in this situation. But when a parent intends to leave a legacy that favors one child, IT HURTS.  My mother subsidizes my brother now, during her lifetime.  On the one hand I don't want/need the money that she worked her butt off to earn.  However, knowing that she and my father plan to leave disproportionate amounts to their two children has strained our relationship because it is a reflection of how disparately she regards us.  While we're not estranged in any way, I will always be reminded that she cared more for my brother.  It's more humiliating in a way because he is not a particularly good person by most people's standards.  [/quote]

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