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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, you should feel a bit guilty. Your child is in school all day. You can play for a little bit after school and then tell the child you want some you time so give you an hour alone. I thought you were talking about a preschooler. Your child is old enough where you can say go play by yourself. [/quote]

My issue isn't the weeknights, between when I get off work and pick him up and dinner and homework and such, this is not much of an issue on the weekdays, I give him my attention from 6-8:30 then I have alone time. [b]It's more of an issue on the weekends. He's up at 7 at the latest. Sometimes he plays alone, but then wakes me up and anticipates my full attention for the whole day. [/b][/quote]

BECAUSE HE ONLY SEES YOU FOR 2 HOURS A DAY DURING THE WEEK.

It is what it is, OP. He misses you. He needs you. You probably only have a couple more MONTHS of this. Be the mom. Be there. Or, cut back on your hours and be present during the week.

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First of all, you judgmental twat, she was specifically referring to weekday evenings.  How do you think that kid gets ready and goes to school? Magic?!  Second, that kid doesn't miss her, he's high maintenance and clearly unable to entertain himself, which is not normal for a 9 year old. (No offense intended, OP)  He needs to learn that people need down time and that he needs to be able to be his own friend and entertain himself for significant stretches of time.  OP isn't doing herself any favors by feeling guilty about his only status.  And she sure as heck doesn't need to be judged by you about working.  People gotta work, lady, it's a fact of life.

OP - he'll be fine.  If he wants your attention, start having him do things that you need to do.  If Larlo wants to show you his game and step-by-step development, sure, you can do that right after you both finish cleaning the house.  Larlo wants your undivided attention on something else, okay, but first the garden needs weeding.  Or you have a book you'd like to read which is what you have planned now.  Set it up so that there's delayed gratification.  Can't do that now Buddy, but in 45 mins I'll be able to check it out for about 15 mins.  Your time (and sanity) is valuable too.  He needs to learn that.[/quote]

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