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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Initially wanted three but pregnant with #2 now (third trimester) and this will be it for us. I can't handle the mental or physical demands of another pregnancy.[/quote]

OP here. I love pregnancy (except for first tri). First year is a bit of a marathon. I guess I waver because if someone would tell me you can have your third child as a two year old I’d be tempted. But then imagining that child growing into their own set of activities and so on, for some reason juggling all three schedules of non-driving little people — that seems like a lot.[/quote]

I wanted three but after two felt like we’d have a really rough time handling the first two years of three kids. Busy the time I felt like I could handle a third I felt too old. Now with both kids are well into elementary school I am so glad we stopped at two. One had baseball 5 days a week plus a music lesson once a week. The other has soccer three days a week and swimming once a week. It is crazy. The kids never have a game/recital/etc. that does not have at least one parent but there have been enough times that they overlapped that I know with 3 that wouldn’t be possible. [/quote]

OP here. Thanks for the flash forward. I wonder how parents of three (without a SAHP) do it. I am guessing maybe car pools and extended family.[/quote]

But even with a SAHP they struggle. When both kids have practice at 5 across town from each other, sure it is nice that one parent is home but it doesn’t solve getting two kids to two places at once. Add a third and even parent #2’s flexible schedule can’t solve that. So yes you carpool or get help from grandparents or all of the above. But for me (work full time from home, DH works from home a couple of days a week, both have flexible schedules,
No nearby family), I don’t want the answer to be a carpool for game days. Ideally I want to be there. But if o can’t becaise I am at the other kid’s game, I sure want DH to be there. It’s not just the logistics of getting them there. It is the being there that made me glad we stopped at two. [/quote]

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