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[quote=Anonymous]I am the second wife, had no kids of my own (first marriage for me), met my DSC when they were 5, married when they were 9, had a baby when they were 10 and it was SO HARD on my DSC when we had the baby.

Even though I had known And had a great relationship with my DSC, it made our relationship worse, and really strained his relationship with his father. DSC was also incredibly jealous and not used to sharing his fathers attention with anyone (I would tag along with their stuff or let them do their own thing), and it took almost 2 years for things to hit normal again. DSC loved their new sibling, but it was a very challenging adjustment. Now the baby is 5 yo, and they are lovely together, but the age gap makes it hard to have common interests and activities. DH and I often end up splitting up and he will do something with my DSC and I will do something with the younger child(ren).

So it will change your entire family dynamic and the dynamic with your kids, and there will be some tough moments. I also think that those tough moments change the enjoyment you can feel with the new baby. I felt in some ways that the birth of the new baby was a lot about my DSC, and not just about the new baby. We have had 2 other kids since then, and they were very different because my DSC was at a better place about a new sibling (although they still complained about each one). [/quote]

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