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I got married bc I wanted kids and he was a nice guy. Not the love of my life, not the best sex ever, but perfect timing as we both wanted to settle down. It has been 17 years and been fine/good. Occasionally I miss the passion of my younger years/lovers but not often. Good is good.

Similar story. Married 6 years, 2 kids mostly good. 
I love him but not in the love of my life sort of way (although he feels that way about me). We have shared goals and a life. I'm happy with the kidde we've built together and I don't see it changing. A nice stable life. We enjoy each other's company.[/quote]

Similar here. I loved him, and still do, but he was not my soul mate who checked every box. At the time, I did not think I had many options (I had not had any long term relationships at that point, despite the fact I was late 20s), we was a really good guy, and loved me deeply. His confidence that we were perfect for each other and should get married definitely influenced me.

You know what? I don’t regret it. He is a wonderful man, and much better of a partner than the marriages I see around me. We’ve been married 11 years, are good friends, have super compatible outlooks on all the important things (money, religion, parenting, morals, standards of housekeeping, how to spend free time), we have regular sex, and I 100% can count on him to support me (not financially - we split that!). We have a good life. The things that gave me pause when we were dating - namely the fact that he’s not talkative or playful and  not quite as outgoing and fun as I would have chosen, haven’t gone away, but I’ve found other outlets for those needs. I worry sometimes that once the kids are out of the house I’ll be lonely, but objectively I know I have it pretty good, am committed to him and his marriage, and will just need to make sure I have social outlets beyond our marriage.
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This sounds like a better marriage than many/most I know that married for love. Congrats![/quote]

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