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[quote=Anonymous]My son is anxious, and what works for us (although he's 10 not 4) is paraphrasing when he's upset - so no lecturing about why the rule is what it is, but "I hear you're upset that you have to stop your game in the middle because screen time is over", "I hear that you're frustrated because you made so much progress", "I hear you think its unfair and that I'm being mean". I don't change the rule, I don't change the outcome (the screens go away), I literally just paraphrase what he's saying so that he feels heard. The other thing that helps, and it sounds counter productive, is to NOT engage in the argument. The expectations are made clear, I say one time why I'm doing whatever it is I'm doing, and then I start paraphrasing but I do NOT negotiate. This was especially helpful when my son was much younger (in the 4-6 age range) because when a 4 year old is given too much power over their life they literally don't know how to handle it. They aren't ready. [/quote]
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