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[quote=Anonymous]Op— clearly something is broken in your life. And you think skipping ahead a year will solve it. It almost certainly won’t. You resent your parents for holding you back. But if they are like 90% of the parents I know, they put some thought into it, got advice from the pediatrician and pre-school, etc. and made the best decision they could at the time. You were borderline, and if you had been born two weeks later— or 2 days later— if your mom had been overdue— it wouldn’t have even been an issue.

Your resentment and desperation to “catch up” seem out of proportion with a decision to redshirt.  Which is common for fall birthdays— especially October birthdays and works well for many kids. If you have social problems, it is not only, or even mostly, because you were redshirted with a fall birthday. If anything, this should have helped socially.

Your parents are right about overaccelerating. And education isn’t a race. Between redshirting and gaps years, starting college at 19 is pretty common. I have a HS senior who will turn 18 next week who is taking a gap year.  He has ADHD and weak executive functioning and attends one of the super competitive public DMV  STEM magnets and is burnt out. And has found something productive to do next his year. So I think it’s a great choice. And he won’t be behind his peers. He’ll be ready for college.

After colleges, many, if not most, grad schools like to see you take a year or two off, at least.

You you feel isolated or different, start working with a therapist and figure out why. It almost certainly is not that you were red shirted. Although I’m sure it’s easier to blame your parents for your social failings rather than face them head on. And honestly, you sound immature for an 18 year old.

Grow up if you want to be treated like a grown up. [/quote]

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