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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know the new puppy would never replace my old boy-- and that's not why we got him.   I wanted to create new memories with a new member of our family.  But I feel like I'm keeping the puppy at a distance-- literally and figuratively.   Don't get me wrong-- he gets PLENTY of love from my 3 kids and husband.  Lots of attention and play and affection.  And he's affectionate right back!   But I don't want to get too attached.  I just keep thinking about my old dog....and missing him....

Does this get better?!  Why can't I move on!?

Thanks.[/quote]

OP, from your post I assume losing your dog is the most tragic thing that has happened in your life. If that's the case, count your blessings ...[/quote]

You clearly don’t have dogs or you wouldn’t say an ignorant thing like that.[/quote]

OP, ignore that. There are some people who hop around the forum looking for opportunity to hurt and inflict emotional pain. 
Those who lost a pet, they know what you are going through and those who did not, never will so don't bother to reply and don't let them get to you. There are also people who send you a big hug and know what you are going through.

Loosing a dog is like a loosing a person because they are in our lives all the time, every day, we do talk to them, they communicate back. We spend more time with dogs then with most humans because humans have chores and all and dog is always there for us. They give us all the love, all their lives and all they want back is to feel love.

If you are not sure thinking you took the dog too early, just close your eyes and think how empty the house would be if the new dog would not be there. 
It takes time to created the bond. It is natural that you don't love the new dog yet, because you are good person and you are looking for real deep relationship that takes time. This will be just the same if you wait a year or five. It is in part because the new dog is not the old dog, not hat comfortable familiar everything about him. He does not know you like the other dog did, and you don' t know him because he is new.

That is why do not despair, take it slowly, take it day at the time and give the dude  chance to win your heart. Think also about the old dog, how happy he would be seeing you being happier and this new dog can give this little happiness and bring back the joy of having a pal  and a friend at your side.
Maybe the other dog helped you ended up with this dog and maybe there is something of  him in the new dog, at first you are looking for those things and there is not many but there are some, look closely. Then with time you will realize that this dog is worth loving for himself for his own treats.

It is so hard and you will miss your old dog but every time you do, take a new dog and talk to him, tell him how much you miss the other dog, give him a hug and tell how happy you are that at least you have him to talk to and share the sadness with, look into his eyes, his big beautiful lovely alive eyes and you will see your old dog in them. All dogs are related, they come from the same tree, they share the same genes and the same soul. In some ways you have your old dog in the new dog for sure.

Your grief is serious and painful. You will never forget your dog. The pain will be there for a long time, just like with loosing a person, you will be better with carrying a weight as you would carry a load, but the load is not going to get smaller. With time it will be easier because you will learn to feel less pain and sadness when you think of the happy moments you spend with the dog. This is part of the problem and pain, you not only grief a dog, you also grief those moments and times that he was with you through and helped you through and just made you happy, and now with him it feels little like that link to those times are broken and the past is gone. That hurts and it is hard. The only consolation is that the new dog will be with you for another  15 years and keep you company and be at your side to take you into future. You are starting new chapter and new chapters are never easy.

Bless you and your little angels, the old one and the new one.

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