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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm about to have my second in a couple of months and my kids will be 5 years apart, both girls. I grew up an only and loved it UNTIL now, both of my parents are old and have health issues.  It is really really hard being an only navigating that role as taking care of your aging parents in their golden years. Being an only has its perks but so does having a sibling.  [b]Literally the only reason we had 1 more is so my oldest can have a teammate in later life.[/b]  I want them to be friends but don't expect it necessarily.  My hope is that they will be close when they are older and can help with me when my husband and I are older and decrepit.  You are giving your only a teammate! It will be good and hard and all the things - but you will get through it and you may even have fun. [/quote]
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Ha!  If you think being an only and taking care of aging parents is hard, try doing it with a completely dysfunctional sibling whose contribution is to make the situation far worse.[/quote]
Wait, are you saying not all siblings are default BFFs? GTFO![/quote]

My sister and I are BFF and partners on parent care.  My mom's sister is the bane of her existence and did literally NOTHING but criticize my mom when she did all the parent care solo.  It's a crap shoot.  Planning two for BFFs and senior care decades from now seems naive to me.  We are having an only because of our ages and money, and the amount of people telling me I'm going to ruin the child's life is hilarious.  Our kid will be born in a first world country to two educated parents, I think it's going to be just fine with or without a sibling.  And I think we can plan for our aging just fine over the next few decades without putting it all on this person we have never met nor even evaluated in terms of ability to manage our health and money.[/quote]

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