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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People using terms of endearment casually is one of my pet peeves. I had a receptionist who called everyone dear and sweetie on the phone. Put a quick stop to that.

I agree with being upfront. I don't think it needs to be confrontational. I would say that "[b] I realize you don't you likely have good intentions or don't even realize you are saying it but I find it uncomfortable when you call me dear.[/b] Give him a chance to respond then say thanks for understanding and being responsive. [/quote]

This, especially since you have expressed that you are already upset with him anyway about other things.  Recognize that your unhappiness with the other things is causing this disproportionate level of need to respond.

If your other concerns are more legitimately work-related then don't allow this thing to take the focus off of fixing those things because you can easily become the mockery of your work unit (see the post about "... SUSAN," which is an excellent example of how others can soon begin to refer to you if they decide to support him).

Focus on specific, task- or job-related complaints.  Once you have successfully reconciled all of those and you are in a more powerful position then go after the little irritants if they still bother you.  You will find they likely will have gone away or you don't even think of them because they are so trivial.[/quote]

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