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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It bothers me as I feel it is condescending, though probably subconsciously.  This colleague is one year older than me though always behaves as if he is far older and more experienced than me.  He is more senior than me in job title but we currently have the same level of role (he is not my boss and I don't have to answer to him but I have to work with him). He says it to most women but not men.  Would you say something?  How?  [/quote]

Call him Honey.

And smile :-)[/quote]

No. For the umpteenth time, this isn’t how this is handled. [/quote]

OP here. Is it that he shouldn’t get away with it so i should be upfront?  Or because he could get the wrong message?  I actually feel it is an easy way to make the point without showing weakness on my part. I’m a bit confused, though, about the best way forward.  And a bit annoyed that it’s something that a lot of women have to deal with.[/quote]
It’s that you can be straightforward and simply tell him to stop calling you dear or “My name is Jane.” The response above skirts the issue and makes a silly game out of it. It’s not direct. If one wants to be treated with respect (which is what you’re asking for), then the request has to be made from a place of strength. If it were the first time he said it and you were quick to respond with an “Okay, honey,” that might be different. You’d be handling something with a quick wit and humor.  But you didn’t. (And that’s okay.) It’s been going on and you want it to stop. Ask for it without the jokes and smiles. [/quote]

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