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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just began charging my 21 yo daughter rent in January. She pays $150 per month. She works a part-time job and her hours have been unexpectedly cut back for the past few weeks. I have been on her for months about getting a better paying, more stable job, but she has been dragging her feet. She was in college but dropped out during her freshman year, and has been trying to "find" herself ever since. I implemented the rental payments in an effort to nudge her into being more responsible.

I have zero need for the peanuts she pays in rent, however, I feel strongly that a lesson needs to be taught here. In the real world, a landlord would not be interested in a sob story about reduced hours. Am I being too hard or should I stick to this method?[/quote]

Very important lesson that your daughter knows life isn't "free."  We did something similar with our children years ago, except the amount was a bit higher ----more like $400-500/month (room and board) and living with us required they adhere to house rules similar to when they were home from college.  None were happy about it at the time, but it kept them from spending everything on frivolous things (they were working in paid internships/entry level jobs) and it prepared them for leaving to live on their own.  In fact, we saved the money in an account for them which they got back when they were ready to move out.  Each moved on after about one year and had a nest egg of $5000-6000 which helped them get started once they left our home.  That said, I don't know if I could ever boot an adult child out but I would certainly require contributions to the household in the form of labor if they were unemployed. Fortunately, in our case, it was more of a "soft landing" for a year after college.  Today they are all fully "launched." [/quote]

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