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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm always intrigued by these kind of posts. I don't quite get it, I guess it's a cultural difference. It's possible to hang out with a friend, have adult conversations and all in the presence of a toddler. If she's a first time mother and very focused on her kid she will talk about the kids anyways whether she's alone with you or not. Kids are part of life people. How can you say someone is your friend but you specifically do not want to get to know their own kid, let alone meet them. I mean, if you see them a lot I get the point of a child-free night out.[/quote]

Mom of 2yo here. No, it is not possible to enjoy adult conversations with a toddler.

I would try to visit when she does not have custody so you can go out.[/quote]

Let me fix it for you:_in the US_ it’s not possible. Yes it is a cultural difference. Mothers are expected to sacrifice their own needs, wants and priorities at the altar of the child king, who is not taught any manners until later in life. [/quote]

NP. Sorry, I just don’t believe you.  I’ve had three two year olds, all well mannered.  But they can’t sit still and quietly and not need to be spoken with or managed for a couple hours while my friend and I drink wine, have a meal, and catch up.  I don’t sacrifice everything for a “child king,” that’s why I get myself a sitter and enjoy time with adults.  My kid doesn’t need to get toted to every social occasion.[/quote]

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