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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is your MIL with your kids?  This could end up being a very lovely gift to your kids if it fosters a close relationship with their grandparent.  It also is a beautiful real way to teach them values.

That said, can you afford it?  What happens if MIL falls ill herself and FIL is still alive?  I don't know, would be very tough.  My mother lived with us for about a year with great needs at the end of her life and it was hard but boy am I glad I did it.  I'm sure that I would offer the same to my MIL.  [/quote]

Even if MIL is a lovely grandma, she's not going to have time or energy to spend with the grandkids if she's the primary caregiver for a person as needy as OP's FIL is.

My grandmother lived with us for a time, and it was wonderful, but she was not that ill for most of it, and for the rest of it, she had hospice care so my parents were not primarily responsible for her physical care.  I think that an older woman is going to be overwhelmed with this, and if OP and her husband are not willing or able to help out and/or pay for help, they are not necessarily doing anyone a favor by letting them move in.  [/quote]

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