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&gt; Are you religious? How often do you go to church? Do you believe in God? -this is in line to order fast food on a joint road trip
&gt; On the phone after we told MIL that we were expecting -How much weight have you gained? Are you afraid of getting fat?
&gt; When I was working &quot;Do you miss your children?&quot; &quot;Do you worry that someone else is raising your children?&quot; or when I was wasn't working &quot;Do you feel like you lost your identity&quot; &quot;What are going to do -like 1,000 times in six months when I already told them I was intentionally taking six months off.
&gt; Lots of questions about my parents who are dead. [/quote]

Maybe some of this is cultural? I can totally see folks in my family grilling me with these sorts of questions.  I don't think that there is necessarily any ulterior motive to these.  They just sound like a bit of a clumsy way of making conversation.  Some cultures converse in a way that Anglos consider "rude".  If you try to deflect too much or act like they are insulting you, you will likely get labelled a Sensitive Sally.  Just answer the questions with a straight-up answer and own it.[/quote]

Agree with this.  My MIL did try to use what I said to then have a go at me if it was different to her cultural expectation.  So take the things that mean nothing to you and answer those.  For me saying I wasn't religious wouldn't matter to me.  Even if the other person had something negative to say about that, I just wouldn't care.  However if a topic is sensitive, then shut it down.  Personally I wouldn't want to answer questions about my deceased parents.  For me I would probably say 'why do you want to know' or 'I don't like discussing that' and change the conversation.

You could even turn it around by saying 'did you miss your children when you were away from them'. If they ask something 1000 times then perhaps "I feel like we have been through this.  I'm taking 6 months off'  or just keep saying "I'm taking 6 months off".

Don't let them get under your skin or make you question your choices.  Do what's right for you and believe in it.  [/quote]

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