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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, need a reality check to see if I am overreacting.  DH works long hours in a stressful job. Many evenings he doesn't come home in time to say good night to the kids. This week I have taken kids out of town for vacation. DH was very busy earlier this week but said his schedule would free up today.  Last night kids and I videochatted with DH for about 10 minutes. He was at home and everything was okay. Also briefly spoke with him this morning. Today we tried to call him at around 8:30. He was still working and refused to pick up the video call. Txted to say he was working. Offered to wait and try again when he would be done with work but he still refused.  I know he is busy with work but he couldn't take 5-10 minutes to say goodnight. Kids are old enough to understand. They said it was no big deal but it is a big deal to me.  We also never go anywhere or do anything together. He refuses to take even one day off for a long weekend with us.  I am really sad and really mad. [b]Am I being unreasonable?[/b][/quote]

If you mean the phone call, it sounds like you had already spoken twice in a 24 hour period, last night and the next morning. If your kids are old enough to understand and said it was no big deal I don’t think he needs to say goodnight every night.  When we travel as a couple and the kids are with grandparents we normally try every other day and prearrange the mutually convenient times.  But sometimes things happen like someone gets back later than planned - on other side and we adapt.  So the phone call is a bit overreacting IMO given that you already talked somewhat recently  and your kids could care less.

As far as DH never taking a day off and having to vacation without DH, I would be upset BUT it’s not changing anything.  Either accept it or move on.
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