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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - part of me wishes there were a miscarriage because then I would not have to make such a tough decision. The economics / logistics are all clearly against having a 4th, however my hormones are overriding “logic” here on some level — ultimately I want my DH and I to be together as a unit - I am sure I would feel resentful if he pressured me into an abortion and he supports either outcome - I just wonder whether we would be so stressed - all the other pregnancies were “planned.”[/quote]

Our 3rd was unplanned.  Dh was supportive either way but would probably have preferred to abort.  We have a bit of an age gap between 2nd and 3rd, which helps in the finances and just managing young kids and our oldest is now to the age where he independently helps out.  Our older two have SN but DD is NT.  In some ways she's brought us closer together.  Dh is very engaged with her.  Its cliche, but I can't imagine our family without her.[/quote]

I wanted to add a couple of things ...  in the interim between 2 and 3, DH moved from a long commute job he wasn't happy with to a really short commute and flexible job he likes.  I also sought treatment for my anxiety after DD was born.  It's the whole picture, not just the number of kids.  Are you guys barely hanging on or are you pulling as a team even though life is stressful at times?
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