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[quote=Anonymous]We had an unplanned/ birth control failure 4th pregnancy. I was devastated when I found out and even gave very brief thought to just terminating right away without even telling DH. That thought didn’t last long and we both cried over the news. For me it was about another very difficult pregnancy on my body and for DH, it was worrying about my health and long-term financial concerns (college, retirement, etc). We didn’t have near-term financial concerns as we already had a nanny so that made the news less traumatic.

Many years later, this fourth child is such a blessing to our lives. She brought something that we didn’t even realize was missing from our family. And we love having four kids - the dynamics are wonderful and have some benefits over three (no “one” middle kid, always a playmate, etc).

I am now so very thankful for that birth control “failure,” but I will say that had I been in a different situation (big financial issues, marriage problems, etc.), I probably would have taken my initial thought of termination more seriously. My other three kids needed a sane mom, functional parents, stable finances, etc and I would have prioritized their well-being over a six-week fetus. [/quote]

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