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[quote=Anonymous]You can also petition the court for a delinquency or deprivation determination.

This is something parents find horribly distasteful, basically telling the court "I am depriving--ie neglecting--my child" or "My child is a delinquent--ie a criminal", tantamount to spouses who have had to divorce to get medical care for a seriously ill partner. And many jurisdictions have modified the legal framework in the past 20 years in an effort to make the process more humane.

It doesn't save you any money if you have money or insurance for care, because child support laws apply to a parents whose kid ends up in a treatment facility under state/county custody. It does make it easier to get access to facilities the state has a contractual relationship with.

Of course, your kid could also end up in an abusive place, whether for-profit, non-profit, operated by the state, operated by some private entity.

Your child could die in such a place. Or not.

Your child could become more pathological or angrier at you. Or not.

Personally? I always stood by mine. He was adjudicated a few times. He was in the custody and/or care of other people and entities, some of which I was ok with and some of which I saw as serious threats to his safety as well as his future. I was never super huge on consequences, frankly, because I believed most of his missteps were because he was NOT controlling his behavior in any meaningful way rather than because he did not want to. Some may well have been "won't" vs. "can't"; I opted to err on the side of "can't".

I think parents do vary in terms of whether they see the solution as tough love or just . . . love. People can tell you what they did and how well it worked. That is NEVER a guarantee for your own kid, but connecting with other families with similar issues is a good idea for you AND for the kid. [/quote]

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