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[quote=Anonymous]I'm divorced with a son, and just got engaged to my ex, who also has a daughter.  We met each other's kids after we had dated about 15 months.  We started out by doing a few things as a couple with each kid separately, eg, I went to dinner with her and her daughter, and she went out to lunch with me and my son.  Then, about 6 months later, they met each other and we started hanging out as a foursome.

I met her daughter for the first time by going for a walk with my dog and getting ice cream.  The following times were similarly brief.  She met my son by coming early for a party I had at my house.  The other guests arrived 30 minutes later.  At the end, she stayed and helped clean up a bit, while I played baseball with my son.  I think that helped show she wasn't going to take over our relationship.  I didn't really tell him much about the situation before, as I didn't want to put any pressure on the situation.

From the title of your post, I suspect that your boyfriend is somewhat significant in your life.  If that's so, I see no reason not to introduce him to your kids.  Whether you introduce him briefly and keep it light or fto o more try to integrate him into your life depends, I guess, on what role you see him in it.

My fiancee was the first woman I dated after my divorce that I introduced my son .  I noted that he became attached to her more quickly than I expected.  Fortunately, our relationship has progressed, so that turned out well.  I'm also lucky that my ex has been really great to my fiancee, so my son has no divided loyalties.  But I would be cognizant of that potential factor and act accordingly.  Good luck.

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