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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, OP, you sound really caught up in things that just aren’t true.  Not getting confirmed now will not keep the, out of the church later, and not forcing them through confirmation is in no way a signal that they’re less grown up than their peers.  Given how often you referenced social pressures, I wonder if you’re projecting onto your kids the social pressures you feel among the adults in your church, that you’re concerned about how it will look to everyone else if your kids skip out on confirmation while everyone else is doing it, whether you will be viewed as lesser because you didn’t instill better religious values in your kids,

I could be totally off base there, but it may be worth a little introspection to make sure before you dismiss it out of hand.[/quote]

I agree.  OP is making more of confirmation than is justified--people are confirmed as adults all the time, and not being confirmed is not a rejection of a church, and someone can attend church without being confirmed.  Faith is a journey, not a destination.

And social pressure and "what people think" should not factor into this decision at all.  My mom worked for the freaking bishop and I didn't get confirmed "on schedule."  Not once did she say or act like she cared what anyone else would think.  I'm sure she got comments, but if she told them what she told me, she told them that she was proud of raising a kid who took confirmation seriously enough to say no if it didn't feel like the right decision, and I wasn't just rebelling for its own sake--my reasons were the result of a lot of thought and reflected the very values that I had learned from her and from the church.  [/quote]

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