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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks so much for everyone’s input. With Daniel, the few play dates we had in the past were initiated by me. She never reciprocated. I’m not feeling ownership to the child but just wish we can all play together? One poster was spot on about the parents speaking to the kids in their native language. I will initiate something with all of us. I did comment in the FB post that whatever they are doing looks fun and DD would love to join next time. Not sure if it’s ok to say something like that.

Another question I have is: a few posters said invite other kids to play dates. So DD is only close to these two kids but not others and I do like a few parents there as well. Do you initiate play dates based on who your kids play with or which moms you like ?[/quote]

It's generally considered pushy to try to invite yourself along.  Personally, I don't love playdates with more than one other kid--the dynamics get more complicated.  If you want to have playdates, invite someone to have a playdate.  Invite both kids to a playdate, if you want.   But don't expect to be included on every playdate or outing.  You don't have to invite everyone you know to everything.  It's not excluding your kid to have a playdate with another kid.  And frankly, these are really family get-togethers, and the families are getting together because they are happy to have someone who speaks their language and can reinforce their efforts to make sure their kid learns their language.

I invite parents I like, but I also tried to invite kids my kids played with.  As long as the kids behaved reasonably well and I had a nice conversation with the other parent, fine.  But I don't want to sit and make small talk with someone I don't like for two hours just because my three-year-old like their three-year-old.  [/quote]

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