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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a middle school counselor and also have a rising 7th grader. I don't allow ANY social media. Not because it is "unsafe", but because of what I've seen it do to kids. I've had kids nearly suicidal over what they see on social media. They see other kids who post pictures where they are excluded and left out. I gave kids who are comparing their lives against others. The gifts they get the trips they go on, the list of material comparisons goes on and on. Even adults struggle with envy, feeling left out and the resulting loneliness that social media causes. You know what kids I don't see? The ones not on social media. I have some kids that dont care about social media, are not on it, and are happy. Each year the drama and social problems from social media get worse and worse and for a kid sitting at home alone on a Saturday night looking at snapchat or Instagram of what appears to be EVERYONE having the time of their LIVES while they didn't get an invite is a huge huge deal to a 13yr old. Most adults struggle in this scenario.To a teen or tween it feels utterly catastrophic.

I deal with these conversations, tears, stress and sadness over it on a daily basis. Why intentionally introduce into your young  adults world something that will potentially make them feel depressed and inadequate? They are already insecure. This magnifies it. Give them the gift of allowing their brains and emotional intelligence time go mature before throwing them to the wolves.
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THANK YOU for this. This is so well-said--much better than I have tried to say when explaining to people why I think social media is unhealthy for kids.

Also, thank you for being a middle-school counselor. This is God's work indeed.[/quote]

I love working with middle schoolers! It is my pleasure. Wouldnt do any other age.

I do wish parents really knew how social media impacts their mental and emotional well being and I wish parents knew it is OK to not allow social media. Some parents get it, most don't.  Their kids won't suffer , their kids will actually thrive without it.  I have kids who think there is something wrong with them because they feel excluded and that exclusion is in their face 24×7.  There is no escape. They feel like a personal failure. It is so sad to have to watch a smart, good, bright child with a lot to offer feel like a loser when they are anything but![/quote]

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