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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 12 year old was overweight last summer and had been trending that way over several years and has lost weight this year by eliminating snacks and watching what she was eating.  I worried about this a lot and wondered what to do and eventually realized that it wasn't mine to do anything about -i.e. it IS my job to provide healthy meals and healthy food options but it ISN'T my job to make her lose weight.  If she asked me for help losing weight, I would certainly help her figure this out but she didn't.  I realized that there was more harm in in the intervention in her case than good and she didn't need me to tell her she was chubby as she already knew that.  [/quote]

This is a great perspective. Thank you. 
The doctor told both of us that he wants to see her in three months and, at that time, she should either be the same weight or have lost some. I am hoping healthier food options will do the trick.[/quote]

If my kid's ped said that in front of my child I'd be looking for a new doctor. That is completely inappropriate and is only going to contribute to your kid's food issues.

In addition to the good suggestions others have made, think about ways to help incorporate more exercise into her life, even if it's just a family walk during the weekend.[/quote]
Good God, do you always think coddling your kids is the best way? Hiding the truth from them? That is absolutely appropriate and nutritionist told my DS at 13 that he needs to gain weight and she expects him to take this seriously. I was thankful because kids will listen better to authority like a Dr. And don't give me some crappy answer how overweight is different than underweight. Are you the pp who thinks size 14 is fine bcs it is average for US female? You are part of the problem, why can't you accept that? Honesty works best. OP's kid already knew she was overweight. Kids are not stupid. I actually really, really dislike you for posting this, and I think you are a terrible parent for saying this. It is doctor's job to tell that tween to lose weight or not gain weight. That Dr is being responsible while you are being utterly irresponsible parent. Call a spade a spade, but no let's pretend that it is perfectly ok for 12 year old to be overweight and keep quiet about it! In the words of an orange, you are a Loser parent.[/quote]

What about health at every size? Or fat is beautiful? Or whatever other nonsense is floating about out there to justify being fat or obese.

This is the problem!  Do I think overweight people should be mocked or turned away due to size, absolutely not!  But if my kid were getting on the road to chubbyville I’d try to fix the issue.  No more snacking and healthy meals.  Honestly, Americans eat way too many snacks and it’s like eating is a constant pastime.  Get a donut with coffee, sure! Afternoon pick me up of chips and a candy bar, why not!  You’re supposed to be hungry for the next meal, that’s how it works!  I would stop buying or offering all snacks and make the kid wait for dinner.[/quote]

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