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[quote=Anonymous]Everything you've said resonates with me, but 20+ years for me, and children.

[quote=Anonymous]I feel shallow saying this, but it's hard to deny what your body is telling you - I don't feel physically attracted to him. It's hard to get turned on. [/quote] Yes, I feel shallow that i don't like my husband fat. He started getting fat before we got married but I had no idea it would continue and balloon the way it has. And I felt ashamed and shallow for not being attracted to him.  I didn't realize it was OK to not be attracted to somebody that you already loved because they got fat. Ugg. I feel icky saying it even. Can I just admit that his fat body is kind of gross? No, because then I get shamed for feeling that way. It is pounded into us to pretend not to care.

It irritates me. And I sometimes wish I'd never married him.

[quote=Anonymous]I'm a very sexual person. But physical intimacy with him is just not appealing. We have been married 12 years, during that time he has aged a lot faster than I have, in part because of my faster metabolism, but also I take better care of myself than he does (I eat healthy, exercise).[/quote] I also take better care of myself than my DH does, I'm fit and in shape.

[quote=Anonymous]I have sex with him on a regular basis bc I love him. It's just not that good for me. He hasn't noticed, but I personally feel physically unfulfilled.[/quote] I can O, because DH is a good lover, but I feel empty inside after being with him. Really truly. But I have to schedule sex with him to wrap my mind around touching him naked.

[quote=Anonymous]It's not something I can talk to him about - what should I even say? But I am guessing I'm probably not alone in this predicament. [/quote] You are not alone. I also don't want to say anything to DH. Because he knows he's fat. His kids tell him he's fat and ask him to exercise. Although when I say something I feel judged (for judging, I know).

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