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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents were in town recently & took my two roommates & I out for dinner (we're in grad school). Though I come from a well off background, I try not to bring up things as I don't want to seem like I was showing off. I was left deeply uncomfortable by my parents, especially my mother's behavior. Examples are: bringing up international family vacations nonchalantly, complaining about a nice restaurants being awful, calling a group of people "riff-raff", our neighborhood a "student ghetto", & a $45 dollar of wine "a steal". I care deeply about my parents & my friends but if my mom acts like this I don't want her to interact with my friends. Is there a way to approach the topic with my mom? I did call her out on the "riff-raff" comment at the restaurant.[/quote]

"bringing up international family vacations nonchalantly," - so she just said your family went to XYZ foreign destination on vacation?  What's the problem with that?
"complaining about a nice restaurants being awful" - there are plenty of "nice" restaurants that serve crappy food.  Price and decor do not automatically mean the chef is any good.  Again, what's the problem?
"calling a group of people "riff-raff" - This is the most troubling comment.  If she made it about a racial, ethnic or socioeconomic group, that's crappy.  If you passed a group of derelicts getting hammered in a park, it's a little impolite, but accurate.
calling "a $45 dollar of wine "a steal" - she's  pointing out that the wine is a good value - that for for its quality, she'd expect it to be priced higher, or that she has seen it for more elsewhere.  I fail to see why this is an issue.

No offense, OP, but you sound like either a young millennial or an old whateverthehellcomesnext who is very, very concerned with virtue signaling - so much so that you have warped perceptions about what is appropriate conversation.  
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