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I would honestly stop providing the extras.

It sounds like this happens with one family? Next time they forget, let natural consequences take care of it. If they need to cancel the outing after they get there, then that’s that. Not your problem. If it happens again, then stop making complicated plans with this family. Only meet up at restaurants or places where no preparation is needed. If they “forget” their wallet, then you know you’re being taken advantage of...

[b]Somehow, they manage to remember the towels when they vacation alone....[/b]

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This.  Don’t loan to them again. Next time they forget their towel, or gloves, or anything else you loaned them, just say “I’d give you our extra, but you still have it from last time.”  This would annoy me too.[/quote]

Or ask for things back at the end of the activity.  Don't let them take them home.  Unless these people are just as flaky when they are on their own and routinely have to cancel activities because they didn't pack stuff when there was no one to back them up, they are, intentionally or not, mooching.  Another option is just not to bring extra stuff with you when you meet up with them, or make sure that it is isn't visible.  If you really have loaned them that item before, I'd use the PP's line.  Say it cheerfully and matter-of-factly, not snidely or rudely.  It's just a fact...they borrow stuff, don't return it, and now you don't have it to lend to them.    [/quote]

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