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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you get to have alone time.  You should - it will make you better company.  And it’s your vacation, too.

You can’t control how they feel about it.  So let go of that.  They may be fine with it.  They may be put off.  That’s not on you.

I think it’s reasonable for your DH to establish with his parents that you are an introvert and really need alone time to recharge.  So you like your coffe in the AM alone, or you like to take a walk alone, or you’re really lucky king forward to your reading time alone, or all of the above.  He should lay the groundwork, and then you keep up the identity.

We have done this successfully with my DH among my very, very social e rendezvous family, who love to share houses and do everything together.  Everyone just knows that Pete likes his alone time, needs his alone time.  He shows up for big dinners and occasional big outings, but no one bats an eye now when he leaves a party to take a walk for an hour or goes upstairs to read while we are all gabbing in a communal kitchen.  They accept what they see as quirk and don’t take it personally.  Joint vacations are hard for him but would be torture without time to himself. I’m cool with that.  That’s who I married.

Can your DH back you up this way?[/quote]

This.  You can absolutely skip breakfast, for one.  And a break to read for an hour or take a walk or something should be fine.  But your husband needs to run interference on this.  And the trade-off, as it were, is that you need to be engaged and polite when you're with everyone.  You get a break to relax and recharge, and you return ready to join in the group.   [/quote]

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