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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHM of 3.5 and 1.5 year-old boys. My husband works extremely long hours so during the week is often just the boys and I from wake up to bedtime.  And the [b]stress of this responsibility [/b]is really beginning to really wear on me. Going back to work isn’t an option right now. Please tell me what helped you overcome this horrible anxiety. [/quote]

Are your kids special needs? You keep them alive, do some chores, and are accountable to no one. What is stress, is your DH a ‘dinner and martinis’ at door and wants hgtv house?

I would minimize stuff ( less to clean), makes meals simple, and take liberal walks and naps. [/quote]

OP here no my kids are just [b]extremely high energy and the littlest is the reason for every child safety device known to man.[/b] 3.5 year old is in school only twice a week for a half day but will go 4 half days next year. For now I’m just exhausted. DH is pretty understanding. I’m a terrible cook and my house is almost always a disaster so no stepford wife here. I really don’t know why I’m failing so much at this, especially when it’s a breeze for my friends.  Thank you for the recs. [/quote]

Moms who haven't had two kids like this have no idea what you're facing, OP. I've had one of each so I know -- it's like night and day in terms of the stress. You are almost to the point when it gets easier. This year my oldest is 5 and can play quietly alone, without ever coming to get me, for 1.5-2 hours. In the meantime, would you consider full time school for the older one? He's probably at an age where it would be better for him socially to have the peer interaction. Even picking him up at 3:30 instead of 11:30 would change your day a lot. You'd actually get a full break when the younger one sleeps.

Also, if you can, invest some time in finding things that they can play a bit by themselves. The blog How We Montessori has some ideas. For my truck-obsessed guy, when he was 2 I had a huge sensory bin filled with beans and all kinds of construction trucks. He could get 20 minutes of play there which was much better than running around the room tearing everything up and trying to kill himself. A toy kitchen with lots of play food was another 20-30 minute toy.

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