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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Never ask a question that can be responded with no, unless you want a no response[/b]. Don’t say “can you get dressed?” Say “it’s time to get dressed” “I need you to get dressed”. If they respond back with no say “I’m not asking you, I’m telling you to get dressed. Now please go get dressed” if the arguing  continues reminder her that mom or nanny can help with getting dressed or she can do it by herself. And yes, that might be actually helping her get dressed. “You were told two times to do it and you chose not to listen, now I will help you. You can put your shoes on myself you, and you can try again tomorrow.”  
Be consistent. I know it’s a pain, but it will work. 
Give positive reinforcements. When she gets out of bed, or gets dressed or takes a shower after the first time she is told,  give high fives and way to go’s, keep up the good work! [/quote]

This!!  Language used is so important.  I think a lot of parents don't even realize they do this asking- their-kids-to-do-things thing a lot. I have one cousin who only ever speaks to his children that way.  "Son, would you like to come have breakfast? Would you like to come take a shower?"  Of course his children are basically feral. Everything an adult says to them is merely a suggestion. Observing that has taught me so much about just being the leader in the household.  [/quote]

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