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[quote=Anonymous]You really need to give warnings "In 5 minutes it will be time to pickup so that we can go to swimming."

In 5 minutes it will be time to stop playing and get dressed.  I'll be back when the 5 minutes are up."  (then go and do whatever - then come back. "OK, time to get dressed now.  Are you going to wear the blue pants or the red ones?

And, yes, for a 5 year old you can work on "Listening the first time we ask" after that you will get a consequence.  You will NOT repeat yourself ad nauseum.  You will give a warning.  Then you will announce the instruction.  then they will listen or else.

the or else is dependent - need them to get dressed?  then you will help them.  And, yes, while you aren't "forceful" you are no nonsense about it.  They will hate it because they want to be independent.  But here is where I do NOT give them another chance, because they just learn that you will give them all the cahnces in the world.  "No, you can't do it alone because you didn't listen the first time. So now I will put your shirt on and take your pjs off.  Arms up."

If it's something you care less about (whether they have time to read  a book before bed, or whether there is time to have dessert before bedtime, or whether they have time to go to favored playground vs. the close playground) then that is the consequence.  "If you listen the first time, right now, and get dressed now we will have time to go to the cool playground.  Otherwise, we will go to the close one because we won't have  time.  Your choice."

But.... it all starts with a warning.  Because YOU aren't just abruptly told to turn off the TV and go to bed.  Or to hang up the phone and go to lunch.  Or....  we shouldn't be doing it to our children, because it frustrates them intensely (as it would you)
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