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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Prioritize, OP. Getting an IUD and paying rent are big deals. Going to cosmetology school and getting tattoos are not big deals.

Did she have trauma in her childhood that you ignored? Maybe a sexual assault she told you about and you dismissed, or one she felt she could not disclose? I don’t mean to be unkind, but you asked how the same parenting practices could produce a DS you feel is on the right path and a DD you feel is not. That would have been one way.[/quote]

That is something to think about. I tried to tell my mom about abuse and she dismissed it as unimportant. It made me want to leave home as soon as I could though, but I had strict parents who did not care about my emotional life.

Some other than things:

1. Have her pay rent; she needs somewhere else to put that money she's making besides tattoos and losers.
 Or, tell her to leave and find a roommate, so she will have to pay utilities and rent. The downside: she may move in for "free" with a loser.

2. Another option, she needs to pay for her phone, her insurance, her healthcare, her car payment. Anything to soak up the funds she is making via her part time job and simulate real life bills.

3. Expect that she may blow through her trust fund. When she gets it, let her know that is the last of the money she is receiving.

Basically I find that younger people who don't have to pay bills never value money; I have a middle aged friend who is like this because her mom and dad let her stay at home and not pay rent for years. And, when she did she rented from them. 
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