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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Lady_looking]OP, here. Would folks mind sharing a little insight on why they felt it was worth it? What were your reasons for divorce?[/quote]

34YO here. No kids but definitely was accustomed to two incomes to find the overhead and my ex husband, while not rich, made more than me. He just really lost almost all interest in me. Physically I actually lost weight over the course of our marriage and maintained a slim, athletic figure. I’m laid back and not a nag, we both did chores and stuff and no one had to ever address it with the other. I have a lot of hobbies and he wouldn’t even ask me about anything that he knew I enjoyed. Never asked about work. If I had a softball game, never asked if we won or how I did. Just sat in the same spot on the couch watching TV whenever he wasn’t at work. He didn’t really go to the gym and he did when we got together. He also gave up the sports he played. Looking back maybe he was depressed, I don’t know. One day I walked in from something that was really important to me and once again he barely acknowledged that I walked in the door. I just blew up. Not in a mean way, but like, why don’t you care about even how my day was? He would want to have sex but wouldn’t French kiss me or otherwise be affectionate. Why would I want to have sex with someone who won’t kiss me or hold my hand on a walk? It was just total, utter apathy. I knew I was young and I would lay in bed and think like, “50 more years of this?” I’m glad I lost it that one day. I spent some time in a tiny apartment. I couldn’t even afford cable. It was actually my favorite time of my life, reading and going running and walking my dog after work. Using the internet at the library on Saturdays. Really simple living. I felt like I really got to know and love myself and now I’m remarried to a wonderful guy who makes me happy with the simplest things like just being interested in what I did at work or how my workout was. [/quote]

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