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I was out of town with the kids for a kids’ sports thing and he went for a drink, met a woman who said she was in a committed yet open relationship, got her number...made a plan and the following week, came home late from what I thought was a work thing. He told me a week after that. [b]He took her out to dinner and drinks at a place not very far from our house![/b] [/quote]

Is that why he told you? Somebody who knows you saw them and threatened to tell you if he didn’t? That’s so sloppy. It’s like he wasn’t even worried about getting caught. Have there been any other radical changes in his behavior?[/quote]

Yes, why did he tell you? That’s so weird.[/quote]

I don’t know why he told me.  I guess feelings of remorse. No one else has told me they saw him. [/quote]

He might be remorseful but I think he had been thinking about this for awhile.  There were too many concious decisions.  Wife out of town with the kids, head on down to the local bar by myself.  Unless he typically does this, that seems like step one if you are looking for trouble.  Then strike up a conversation and get the phone number of person of the opposite sex.  Not only call but take her out on a date.  WTF.  When was the last time he planned dinner and drinks for you,  then going back to her place or wherever and have sex.  My guess is either it wasn’t a one time cheating, or he met her online, or had been discontent about something (maybe mid-lide crisis) and was putting himself on the path for something to happen. There is just no way he was feeling happily married and happy with his life and made at least 5 deliberate, bad decisions in a row.

I feel for you OP and would echo to take your time and decide what’s best for you and the kids.

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