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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't blame kids for attendance or tardies.  Ever.  I don't blame kids for low academic achievement.  I even can understand and empathize with some families for not being able to do the homework (lack of language, domestic issues, etc) or supplement at home.  For me, the hard thing to deal with are behaviors.  I have a very difficult child in my room this year, likely on the spectrum (undiagnosed).  VERY difficult.  Parents aren't any help and in fact are contributing to the behaviors being worse than they need to be.  I don't want to get too detailed but I resent the heck out of the parents and I have to force myself to "act" like I love and care for this student.  I actually dislike him very much.  However, I try very hard to be kind, firm, supportive even though I don't feel any of those things.  For me this is being professional.  I do feel a lot of guilt over how much I dislike him and how much I pray he doesn't show up at school each day.  [/quote]

Sounds like both the school and parents are failing the child.  You talk about what the parents are not doing but what are you doing?  You should initiate an IEP and get him more supports.[/quote]

Why am I not initiating an IEP?  Hmm.  Because the parents insist there is nothing wrong with their child at all.  They have openly told us they will not allow any sped services.  
What am I doing?  I have sent weekly emails to the mother to update her on progress, I have instituted a check in check out system.  I have compiled social stories for him.  I have given him proximity seating.  I have prepped a shit ton of visual signals.  I have taught the other children that it is not acceptable to call him a "bad boy" (which they started to do, because he behaves poorly)  I've set up his own personal system where he earns points towards something he wants for appropriate behavior.  I have him in his own personal reading group to help him.  I preteach behaviors repetitively one on one (which takes time away from everyone else).  I've taken a course, semester long, on my own time and dime, to learn how to assist autistic children.  Even though the parents insist nothing is wrong with him, he displays all the signs and many behaviors.  So while we cannot diagnose, he is responding somewhat to autism type behavior mod.  I have taken pictures of him doing the right thing as a positive reinforcement and to help visually.  I call on him every 3rd or 4th time I call on someone in order to reduce the number of times he loudly and in a whiny voice demands "but I WANNNNNNNT a turn" over and over again.  I put his cubby towards the front of the cubbies so he doesn't knock over every single other kid while getting his coat on. I stand between him and the other kids to prevent this, which he loves to do because he thinks it is hilarious.  And, I have renewed my tetanus shot because he bit me once.

This child runs into other kids on purpose, throws things, has hit a staff member, screams, shouts out and disrupts instruction at least once per minute (as proven by data taken by the social worker) when he's having a bad day, once every 2-3 minutes on a good day and has bitten me.

And here's the other thing, if you think it is so easy to get an IEP for a kid with a parent who refuses to even look at that option, you have no idea how much schools do NOT want to have to pay for the extra $$ it costs to have a child with an IEP on its roster.  We have outright been told that our numbers are too high and they aren't accepting any more evals.  Totally illegal, but that's how it goes.  Now, if enough other parents in the class complain, which they don't cause they are poor immigrants, the school might do something.  But since they don't, the school isn't going to do anything.

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