Reply to Are your husbands that don't care about keeping in touch with their parents bad husbans?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Are your husbands that don't care about keeping in touch with their parents bad husbans?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question. All these posts about husbands not doing things at home, clueless about house, kids, helping dw, are they the ones who are detached from their family of origin? Can it be that all of their parents are from hell (dramatically speaking)? If they are not and are just regular people, can such a person truly be a good husband and a father?[/quote]

This is 100% the case with my ex. He was not only detached, he treated them horribly when they visited. He refused to visit or call. He is an only child and they are not “from hell”  at all. Ex is just an incredible asshole. He is completely cut off from his parents now - leaving it up to me to maintain a relationship for the grandkids. It’s so sad.
Ex was not an involved partner or parent when our kids were little, now sees them one weekend a month on the average. Had I been more aware of the poor relationship between him and his parents I might not have married him  - although to be honest I’m not sure if I would have realized the connection between bad son and bad husband/father at the time. I would advise any woman to pay close attention to how a potential mate treats his parents.
 For what it’s worth my now husband is a wonderful partner and parent to all of our kids. He adores his mother and was always respectful to his father - even though the father didn’t much deserve it.  [/quote]
Your ex is my SIL's ex. Detached from everything, never there for kids apart from money(now), and even that only after the kids were totally messed up. He did nothing for DW, no house help, let alone nice small gestures, now he is paying for it, he earns a lot of money, so no need to feel bad for him, by buying his adult kids anything they want, paying for extravagant vacations, apartments, yet they do not come to him for any help if it involves kind words, listening, emotions. He dislikes his parents, lives half an hour away and will see them twice a year, apart from vacations they fully pay for, and then he makes a rule that nobody is to expect him to do things. The thing is, he still doesn't get what he did wrong, it is all SIL's fault that she had expectations![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics