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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. Look at all the sad sacks around here who settled.

I didn’t have a spark with my ex husband but he was a great guy. Good on paper. Great job, funny, everyone liked him, handy, kind.

After like 4 years of marriage I would lay awake, not wanting to have sex with him, thinking, “50 more years of this?” I wasn’t repulsed by him, but spark and attraction are a key ingredient of a romantic relationship and marriage. I mean, otherwise we would just marry our best friends.

We divorced. I remarried a guy I had a genuine spark with. He’s not perfect but I honestly do feel lucky every day to have him. The feeling should never go away. You can find it but you can’t settle. Don’t listen to everyone saying it dies out anyway; that’s not necessarily true. It’s only true if you settled. [/quote]

It’s also true if you never worked on the relationship. It’s not just that you ‘settled’. You can marry Miss or Mr ‘Spark’ but if you don’t work at your relationship and nurture it that is just as likely to go belly up as any other relationship.

Do not take each other for granted.

Lots of immature people out tonight. [/quote]

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