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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an interesting topic. I never had the urge to procreate, but at age 34 just jumped in and had one hoping  it would be cooler than it sounded in my head. I didn't even decide it was a good decision until my son was around 3 (while my friends were in love from the get-go). And as much as I love my son now, the urge never hit to have another.

I was also talking to a few moms of all boys recently about how sad they were when they found out their third was a boy. They all expressed similar feelings of devastation (mixed with guilt). [b]I was trying to understand what it was about having a girl—nobody could really pinpoint or explain it. I wonder if wanting a certain gender is a similar urge to wanting a kid in the first place. [/b]

I also wonder why some of don't have this baby gene—if the goal of a species is to reproduce, then we should all have it.

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My DW is pregnant with our first and we just found out it is a boy. DW is pretty disappointed, as am I (but to a much lesser extent). We wanted a girl.

I believe her exact words get to the crux of the issue: "I don't even know what I'm supposed to do with a boy. I'm girlie."

I think that there is a feeling of ambiguity and unfamiliarity when it comes to having a boy, especially if it is the first child. DW - in the same conversation - asked if we could try for a 2nd, lol. DW's family is dominated by women, so that's what she's comfortable with.

Of course, we are also incredibly fortunate to be pregnant with a healthy boy and have the resources to raise him. I refuse to lose sight of those facts.[/quote]

DP. I felt similarly. My first was a girl and I was over the moon. I felt like I could teach her how to be a woman in a way only DH will be able to teach our son how to be a man. I think that is what it is about. There is a bond between women that even if its just subconsciously, I think women want to give to the next generation.

I would tell your wife if I was talking to her though that my son is the light of my life. She will figure it out :). Turns out boys are great![/quote]

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