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[quote=Anonymous]I am someone who has always wanted children. I think part of it is biological as other people have said.

I think it is also a 'vision' that a lot of people have about their life. Something they strive towards. It is a fundamental part of what you want out of life.

When someone loses a limb for example or receives a diagnosis of a disease that will dramatically alter their future, they are grieving something viseral, which is the vision of the life they wanted and thought they would have. Certainly they can figure out how to be happy in and enjoy this new life, but it changes EVERYTHING.

That is what it is like to have infertility issues and think you might not have children. It effects your vision of what your entire life was going to look like. Add in that there is a physical and biological imperative driving that vision and you have something that is VERY important to some people.

Also, for women, it is kind of what it MEANS to be a woman. Of course not for everyone, but this experience is something that binds women together through history. And when you can't have a baby, similar to when some women get mastectomies, it alters your vision of yourself. I had trouble getting pregnant with my first and had an overwhelming feeling of being a failure. [/quote]

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