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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would think about a social skills group for her.  It sounds like she has real problems that are affecting her ability to socialize.[/quote]

Really? Every kid a mean girl bullies must have something wrong with Them, not her?

I'm with the PP who reminds kids that when someone behaves inappropriately and is mean to other kids, the main problem is with the badly behaving kid. When you point that out, most kids realize how obvious that is. Larla, you wouldn't treat someone that way right? Why not? Larla gives really good reasons that show she's got her moral compass on straight. You respond, that's right. Now tell me about a kid who would behave that way: why are they doing it? What is wrong with their moral compass? This does two things, it gives Larla confidence that she is not the problem, and it also sparks empathy in her for the kid who is misbehaving. There is always a reason for the bad behavior.

Now, sometimes, a kid also has to take responsibility for the problem. So first you ask, what was going on when this happened? Make sure your kid examines their own role in the situation honestly, because sometimes they do need to modify their own behavior (e.g., that was mean of Suzie, but you also need to understand that it not OK to put your hand down your pants in middle school no matter how itchy the tag on your underwear is. Got to the restroom and fix it next time, that way you aren't giving the mean kid an easy target.)[/quote]

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