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[quote=Anonymous]Your problem isn't the tree it's the "not particularly religious" (which means she is religious to some degree) and that she is supportive of your observance "although she has no interest in exploring it for herself."

You seem conflicted about how much non-Jewish religion you are willing to tolerate in a new partner you live with.  Even though she is "not particularly religious," she seems too religious for you.

I say this as a person who grew up in a family without religion of any kind, but yet we still celebrate Xmas and Easter in non-religious ways.  At Xmas we had family ornaments on the tree, no star topper (just a typical topper found in Eastern Bloc countries in Cold War era), but angels and candy canes, which were completely non-religious to us.   FWIW, I am 1/4 Jewish, but that side of the family hasn't practiced since they emigrated.

I can see how it would bother a Jewish person to have a Christmas tree in the home because it is so symbolic of the way the Jewish faith is dominated by Christianity.  At the same time, this woman is Christian to some degree, so how reasonable is it to expect her to give all that up?  You shouldn't have to give it up, and she shouldn't have to give it up.  That's a basic incompatibility, so unless both of you are willing to compromise, your relationship doesn't seem very promising.  She seems willing to compromise; you do not, or at least not in a way that is compatible with her offer of compromise.

Personally, it strikes me that if she is willing to let you have and light a menorah in the home (and celebrate other holidays like Sukkoth) then that is some kind of parity with having an Xmas tree...[/quote]

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