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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Theoretical guys can. Yours won't.

He's told you that the drama of your relationship took it out of him. He knows that there would be more downs even after a possible up and he's not going there.

Looking hot won't change this. It's happening because either:
A) life with you is drama he can't take anymore (so please go explore that); 
B) he's kind of mature or unrealistic and doesn't understand that it's not all roses all of the time (and he should go to counseling); or 
C) your relationship with each other is unhealthy and he knows it.

Counseling will be a great way to explore this, but it's more likely to help pave your paths to your separate futures than to make him fall for you again.

And he's probably seeing someone. [/quote]

How do you know the OP is drama??[/quote]

The drama is more like kids were little and I worked full time (still do) and at times the focus was more on them than him. I was overwhelmed at times with all the house and kid responsibilities but looking back I should have paid more attention to him. So part of this is my fault. [/quote]

OP, it is ridiculous that you are having to feel guilty for working full time, supporting your family, and being a dedicated mother.  And now man baby is feeling neglected and waaaahhh!  I don't feel love anymore!

Tell him you agree that things are not great and some things need to change.  Start taking time for the two of you to connect and see if you can re kindle.  Marriage takes work and I get it, your focus has HAD to be elsewhere for however long.

Otherwise he is going to end up like my ex husband.  We were exactly where you are, got divorced while my kids were still little.  Now he misses me and is always giving me the misty moon eyes every time I see him.  I know he misses his family, His great kids, his beautiful home, and his wife who still looks damn good.  Dating hasn't turned out to be all that he had hoped.  He had one OK relationship for a while that broke up - now he's back living in his mother's basement!  At age 50!

The grass is always greener, your husband will regret it if he blows up his family because of these mid-marriage duldrums.  Go to a counselor and see if you can fix this.[/quote]

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