Reply to Working with DH is HELL

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Working with DH is HELL"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op what have you tried to do so far? I'm sure you've tried some of what has been suggested here and it didn't work. There are no magic words to make your husband stop his abusive behavior. I would offer him the options of mariage counseling or divorce. [/quote]

I temporarily quit, I've calmly requested that this stop many times, I've cried, I've yelled back, We've done couples therapy sessions. There has been major improvement after therapy. things used to be even worse in the beginning. So I know change is possible. The therapist we used retired and the few new ones we've tried have not helped. Not sure how to respond in specific instances that keep repeating themselves, like yelling during a meeting. Should I just walk out? Ask him to leave? etc.[/quote]

Each one of you needs to type up some bullet points of what needs to be discussed at the meeting.  Then email them to each other so that he has time to absorb what you would like to talk about and if he has concerns he can type up an outline of those concerns for you to calmly discuss together.

In fact, you might try doing your meetings via email altogether.  That way he can rein in his instant negative emotions and focus on your words rather than on you personally.

He should not be yelling at you in the office.  That is not o.k.  In fact, he shouldn't be yelling at you period.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics