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[quote=Anonymous]Guy here:
I was like you in my early 30s. Didn't want to commit, was having fun being single, dating younger women in their mid 20s who had zero desire to get serious, etc.

I then met my current wife. She was a year older than me. Personally, a question that really does it for me when figuring out marriage is: "Would I want to be retired and grow old with this person?"

Forget the questions about kids, family, etc. That will all come along in good time. But once everyone has left the house, can you envision the two of you enjoying your time alone at the age of 70? Do you see them keeping you interested, engaged, and stimulated in the long run?

For me, that was a revelation. If you can envision getting old with someone, everything else - like marriage and kids - sort of falls into place and just feels right.

So: can you envision yourself being an elderly and happy couple? If so, you should pop the question around the 1 year mark.

Don't get engaged after only 6 months. Don't go outside your comfort zone. Frankly, I'd suggest that you move into together now. If all goes well, then get engaged around your 1 year anniversary (or soon thereafter).[/quote]

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