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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did something like this a few times and a few things to consider:
1.  What is the exit plan?   Our guest overstayed and it became uncomfortable.    Talk about expectations if you were to have other guests visiting.   We were no longer able to have in-laws visit and it strained the relationship a bit.

2.  We were allowing my BIL and SIL to stay in a condo we had rent free until they got settled.  [b] My SIL decided not to work and stay home with her toddler.  It created a strained relationship as I was working and had my child in daycare - and indirectly paying for her to stay home.[/b]

3.  If you ask for "rent" it changes dynamics of the relationship.  Just be clear around any financial expectations.  Some visitors get it - some don't.   My cousin staying with us for about 6 months.   She went shopping and filled up the refrig with special food for a party she was going to.   I had no space to put my groceries as she had trays of items she prepared.

4.   I had crashed with family in a similar case as your BIL for about 6 months as I moved to a new city and was traveling for work and not yet found my own place.   I made a contribution to my nieces/ nephews 529s.  It was not exactly what I would have paid in rent - but enough to say thank you as I knew they were going out of their way.[/quote]
Uh yea, I would have had an issue with that at well. Rent would have been charged at that point.[/quote]

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