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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you have to do the mandatory counseling session as a couple before using donor materials? My spouse and I did when we lived in MD, it is helpful for this kind of situation.[/quote]

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Question: how did you deal with the fact that one of you guys were not the bio-parent because that eliminates that whole ("he/she looks like you") and the whole "our baby" stuff where you have a shared aspiration/anticipation. I think there can still be a shared aspiration but it has to be about raising the kid together not focused on the physical traits. Did you actively think about/consider that or were you just naturally sensitive to it?[/quote]

Honestly, once the baby is born I think you start to forget that you aren't biologically related, so you and definitely your family will talk about ways in which the baby has your traits. Of the families I know who used anonymous donors, there is very little talk about the child resembling the donor. I would strongly suggest that you call the clinic you used and ask them for a referral to a social worker or psychologist with experience with donor-conceived families. It sounds like you wife is a little out there in her reaction, but all of your feelings are really typical. You should take the opportunity to talk through those feelings now, and get some advice on how to talk to your wife about her hurtful comments.[/quote]

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